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Absolutely no one in your life should expect you to live in the way that they would like.. No one should expect you to get the job that THEY want you to have, get the qualification THEY want you to get, live where THEY want you to live or do the activities THEY want you to do.

You may feel guilty for going against what they want, you might feel you have no choice other than to do what other people want you to do with your life, however at the end of the day you’re going to be the one getting that job you don’t really love, or doing a degree that utterly tortures you.

IT IS NOT OKAY that some people in your life expect you to live how they want you to live. IT IS NOT OKAY that people in your life may emotionally blackmail you, saying things like “but what about me? Do you not love me? What about what I want?”, in order to get you to do what they want you to do.

You are not responsible for anybody else’s happiness. You are only responsible for YOURS. If you are happy with your career/your life choices etc then the people in your life should be happy too. They don’t even have to be proud of you/your decisions, just simply happy that you are happy.

If people expect you to live for them, and expect you to go ahead and do the things they would prefer you to do at the drop of a hat, they should not be in your life at all.

Live for you and only you.